Key Takeaways

• Resilience sometimes means rest: “Not today” can be a strong choice.
• Treat resilience like energy management: preserve, gain, and spend wisely.
• Move beyond “I’m fine”—use honest language with doctors and loved ones.
• Advocate for yourself: bring an ally, ask clear questions, expect timely results.
• Leaders: communicate enough to prevent rumor vacuums; invite help.
• Productive lamenting: feel it, don’t get stuck—then choose a next step.
• Gratitude, humor, power poses: small tools that shift stress and focus.
• You are in charge: define reality, decide your path, and live now.